Wednesday, December 10, 2014

My own ruminations

                I have often seen most of my friend's children using their mothers cellphones. Most of their profile pictures are their daughters's pictures because the girls use the phone for chatting with and texting their friends. Out of curiosity I asked for their phones and looked into their photos folder ( Na .. Na don't condemn me . I did this only with their permission). It was filled with the images of their children. How many selfies can one click at a time ? You may say ,"May be ten or fifteen ." Nope , you are wrong my dear , my daughter Aruna takes fifty selfies at a time. 
                A few days back, I happened to go to my daughter's school. I felt like I was being surrounded by butterflies . I mean it . Aunty , aunty, aunty everyone of my daughters's friends came calling me, and I could see happiness and positivity emanating from them. I too got hold of it and started enjoying the moment . They chattered ,  giggled at nothing, and laughed to their hearts content as if there was no tomorrow . The moment I saw my daughter the mobile went off my hands and then .... The selfie rally began. I happened to accompany them to movie with them . It was only on that day I felt I am really missing my childhood. I could hear their laughter ringing like Christmas bells. 

           Even I ended up jumping in laughter on hearing my daughter's friend Akaansha talking . Let me give you a sample of her fine sense of humour. They were talking about signing the insurance papers before leaving for a Germany trip. It seems she had read the whole paper before signing it. It read as - If the plane crashes , you will get an insured amount .. Her reaction was "What the hell man!! I will not be there to receive it ." And one more , it read if the airlines lost our luggage , the airline would end up paying a huge amount as a compensation . Her reaction " Ah!  How I hope to lose my luggage!! But it would never happen know!" Am I to say that that was a pleasant evening which I could have not got from any of my family or friends . Ah! Now how I wish to go for a movie with those girls again !!( they are now busy in half yearly exams , no movie time for them)I could hear Aruna mumbling ' look at my mom - asking for taking to a movie when exams are going on .. Grr'
    And now on a serious tone ...who is your favorite person ? I could hear everyone coming out with a celebrity name. Not a single would answer ME. Why are we not our own favorite person? It is only natural that we should be all be our own favorite person . But what stops us to admire our own qualities and revere our own self ? We are surrounded by people trying to undermine our self- confidence. A self doubt that hangs in our daily thoughts adds to this and now we constantly look for appreciation and approval from others . Let me make it clear. We share a status and upload a picture in Facebook . And after that we don't leave it as such . We keep looking for the red symbol for notification. We keep checking whether some likes it or comments it or shares it . But why do we do this? That's because we expect appreciation from others . Even the Facebook likes are a form of recognition. 
                  We all try to control each other by creating dependencies . Colleagues, friends , siblings, lovers , spouses all try to dominate us with their opinions, ideas, and methods. It takes immense effort to overcome this hurdle of this loving eccentricities and attain a stage where you are your own masters. You should develop a state where you are your own masters and never let others judge you . We will feel better when we need to think about ourselves without the burden of the fear of thinking what others will think of us.
           As we are going to step into 2015 , say hardly twenty days , let us all chart our own moral and ethical scale . Let us give up bothering about what people will say , or what the world would think . We can be our own judges and compete with nobody but our own selves. Let us allow ourselves to dream BIG, beleive in that dream and aspire for it . Let us resolve to walk confidentally towards our dream with self assured voice like a WINNER. And then who can stop us from being becoming our own favourite person .

             In young age , all of us are bubbly , confident , energetic, and many more . As we grow up we slowly lose all these qualities and tend to become bitter. Now it's again time to shed all our bitterness and march towards 2015 with all  HOPE. 

        Welcome 2015 , we are ready for you !!

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